Advise Please

I need some advise on this...

I understand that children of Trice's age likes to choose their prefered clothes to wear.. be it going out, to school, sleep or even at home. Should we allow them to choose or should we 'force' them to wear what we have selected?

It's war time in the morning between DH & Trice. Trice wants to choose her clothes to wear which I think it's ok as long as it belongs to the category of clothes for school. But DH feels that we should not let her choose, she needs to listen to us.. dress in what we have selected for her.

I'm not saying Trice or DH is wrong cos the war did happened between Trice & me too when I felt that what she had selected was not suitable for the occasion.

What is your view/approach towards your chidren choosing clothes to wear? Drop me a note at the comment/talk if you can. Thanks!

2 comments:

Dawn said...

Got this from BabyCenter. But it is meant for a 5 year old.

Clothes make the child

Getting dressed "all by myself" achieves two big things: It adds to your child's sense of confidence and mastery, and it becomes one less thing you have to worry about in the morning. Encourage your child's attempts by letting him try more and more steps on his own, from choosing the shirt to buttoning it up. At first you'll need patience — self-dressing can take longer — but your reward is that he'll learn how.

Read more about your 5-year-old »
http://www.babycenter.com/0_your-5-year-old-timeline-clothes-make-the-child_3657472.bc?scid=mbtw_post5y_4m:42&pe=5hk0aQ

anonymous said...

Sarah is doing that and it drives me crazy! But I am learning to be flexible and let go if she cannot be persuaded as long as it is reasonable. After all, I realised that it is okay if she wants to wear going out clothes at home or vice versa. They have so many clothes anyway and they grow so fast that some clothes hardly get worn. And if she chose something not suitable for cooler weather, I would just bring a jacket for her and not insist that she wears warmer clothes. It can work against me because sometimes in the nursery, it is freezing cold and she refuses to wear her jacket over her spaghetti top! But I am learning to respect her choice.